Scripture Text:(click to open in a new window)
1. What do you do when your parent, teacher or boss turn his or her back on you? When have you used that occasion to slack off? To show yourself 100 percent faithful?
2. I think David:
- missed a good chance
- let his heart rule his head
- showed amazing restraint
- made his point with Saul
- had an overactive conscience
- honored the Lord
3. If you were writing this scene as fiction, how would you have Saul respond to David’s rebuke? Do you think Saul’s repentance here is sincere? Does David think so?
4. Think of the person you have the hardest time getting along with. What would happen if you treated this “Saul” the way David did?
- “Saul” would faint in amazement
- “Saul” would cry
- it would transform the relationship
- I would change more than “Saul”
5. How do you deal with conflict (and how would you like to change)?
- avoid it
- approach it cautiously
- thrive on it
- with anger
- with careful words
- with actions rather than words
6. When have you let your friends talk you into taking revenge against someone? How did you feel afterwards?
7. What is your attitude toward authority figures? Which of the following do you see as “God’s anointed” and as people’s anointed: parents? spouse? clergy? employer? police? corrupt politicians? Explain.
8. Is there an authority figure in your life whom you have a difficult time submitting to? How would David act in your position?
9. Are you as content as David seems to be to simply let God effect His will, His way, in His time? Or are you likely to “help God out” in some way? Give a recent example.
10. How can you tell if someone is sincere in wanting to “turn over a new leaf”?
11. By your own standards, how would you do on that sincerity test?
12. In what way does this story remind you of your relationship with your boss/employer?
- Very little – thank God!
- My boss seems out to get me
- I find myself wanting to hide from my boss
- I feel guilty for how I’ve felt and acted toward my boss
- I’d have a hard time not striking out at my boss if I had an opportunity
- I need to see persons in authority as part of God’s plan for my life
13. How does this story relate to your experience of abuse?
- I have struggled to forgive my abuser
- I have struggled with not seeking revenge
- I have confined myself to protective caves and strongholds for a long time
- I don’t think my abuser, like Saul, will ever change
- I am trying to let the Lord “avenge the wrongs done to me”
- I am starting to realize what God has delivered me from
Notice Saul’s words in verse 21. Slaughtering the rival’s entire family was normal practice when one would-be king won out over another. Such action tended to lessen the chance that the rival family would compete for the throne again. Because of his sworn oath, David let Jonathan’s son Mephibosheth live (2 Samuel 9).